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From streaming services to food-delivery apps, the modern world conspires to keep us home and alone. But I went out looking for a human connection. I am lucky enough to have some wonderful friends. From the decline of the office to the rise of single-occupancy flats, our social lives are being leached away from us. Meanwhile, streaming services and food-delivery apps discourage us from going out, their ads extolling the safety and convenience of staying home and not seeing or talking to another human.

People danced with each other and looked at each other and spoke to each other and touched and kissed each other — in public! If you go to a busy public place in the US — a bus, a restaurant, a bar, a sports event — it is an absolute cacophony. They talk to one another. Loudly, brashly and proudly, they talk.

That means striking up conversation at any given opportunity, rather than avoiding it, as many of us in the UK are prone to do. I try it out on everyone I meet, from neighbours and shopkeepers to hospitality workers and groups of strangers in cafes and pubs.

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The first person I get properly chatting to is a fellow resident of my little crescent. Even just that brief chat has opened a channel and we still exchange friendly small talk every time I see him. I point upwards. When I was 15, I fell in love on a riverboat in Paris. I ran over to him as the boat was pulling in to our stop and got his phone number, which he wrote on a crumpled bit of paper.

All of this sounds like a total lie. My friends at school certainly thought so, until, with great satisfaction at their dropped jaws, I introduced them all to my glossy-haired, gleaming-toothed, band-T-shirt-wearing, living, breathing American boyfriend when he came to visit one Christmas. We were children near it started and we look back on it with the same loving, nonsexual 00s nostalgia as you might T4 on the Beach or the Goosebumps books.

But we still click. He and his boyfriend are visiting London, so I ask if they want to go for a drink. Anyone who has a significant ex will know this is not as simple and casual as it gay. It takes a bit of mental gymnastics. It takes a bit of strips. We have fish and chips at the Hawley Arms, the pub Amy Winehouse used to frequent and pull pints in.

I realise immediately that we have both grown up. We speak eruditely about our jobs, about the world and about politics. A change from the last time we had seen each other in person, when our main gripe had been about Megavideo no longer club our favourite TV show at the time, Weeds.